Backbiting in Islam:
Definition:
Backbiting (ghibah) is speaking about a person in their absence in a way that
they would dislike, even if what is being said is true. It includes mentioning
someone's faults, actions, or habits without a valid reason.
The beloved Prophet said:
" Do not backbite Muslims"
To insult someone by mentioning their hidden fault, which they do not want others to know is considered backbiting.
Dear children backbiting is a terrible habit that affects your relationship with Allah and people. Backbiting hurts people's feelings. Allah does not like backbiting at all. The good deeds of the one who backbites are given to the one he is Backbiting now, you will find it easier to stay away from it, and other sins when you are older. You will also find it easier to perform good deeds.
Common examples of Backbiting amongst children:
- He stole my sweets and ate them.
- He is naughty child.
- He talks bad of me to his mother.
- His nose id always runny.
- The teacher scolded him yesterday.
- He stole money from his dad's pocket.
- His mother beat him a lot that day.
- Complaining: It is permissible for the one who has been wronged to complain to the ruler or judge and others who have the authority or ability to settle the score with the one who wronged him.
- Seeking help to change evil and bring the sinner back to the right path, so he may say to the one who he hopes is able to do something: "So and so is doing such and such; tell him not to do it."
- Seeking advice or a Fatwa (religious ruling) by saying to the scholar, " "o and so/my father/my brother has wronged me by doing such and such, does he have the right to do that? How can I solve this problem and ward off his harm from me?"
- Warning the Muslims of someone's evil;, such as highlighting the weakness of some reporters or witnesses or authors. That also includes seeing someone buying faulty goods, or someone keeping company with one who is a thief or adulterer or giving a female relative of his to such a man in marriage, and the like. You should tell them about that by way of sincere advice, not with the aim of causing harm and spreading mischief.
- If a person openly commits evil or follows Bid'ah(innovation) such as drinking Alcohol and seizing people's wealth unlawfully, it is permissible to speak of what he is doing openly, but it is not permissible to speak against him, any other way, unless it is for another reason.
- For identification, if someone is known by a nickname such as the dim-sighted one, or the blind man or the one-eyed or the lame one, it is permissible to identify him as such, but it is possible to identify him in some other way, that is better.
Story about Backbiting:
Qur’anic
Warning:
“O you who
have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is
sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat
the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah;
indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.”
— Surah Al-Hujurat (49:12)
Hadith:
The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:
“Do you
know what backbiting is?” They said, “Allah and His Messenger know best.” He
said, “It is to mention about your brother something that he would dislike.”
Someone asked, “What if what I say about him is true?” He said, “If what you
say about him is true, you have backbitten him. But if it is not true, you have
slandered him.”
— [Sahih Muslim]
Examples of backbiting:
- Insinuating negative things about someone without stating them directly.
- Speaking negatively about someone's character or behaviour.
- Saying negative things behind someone's back.
- Belittling others in front of others while pretending to be their friend.
Backbiting in Islam:
Stop backbiting in Islam:
Causes of backbiting:
- It destroys good deeds like fire burns wood.
- It creates hatred and
distrust in communities.
- It is a major sin and
requires sincere repentance and, if possible, seeking
forgiveness from the person wronged.
How to
Avoid It:
- Change the subject when
others are backbiting.
- Remember your own faults
instead of pointing out others’.
- Defend the honor of fellow
Muslims when absent.
- Make sincere du’a for the
person instead of criticizing.
Backbiting is a serious offense in Islam that harms both the speaker and the
one being spoken about. Islam teaches us to protect each other’s honor, and
true piety includes controlling our tongues. Avoiding backbiting is a sign of
strong faith and good character.
Ghibah is
defined as speaking about someone in their absence in a way that they would
dislike, even if what is said is true. It can involve mentioning someone’s
physical appearance, behavior, mistakes, actions, or any personal trait
negatively.
The
Prophet Muhammad ﷺ clarified:
"Do
you know what backbiting is?"
They said, "Allah and His Messenger know best."
He said: "It is to say something about your brother that he would
dislike."
Someone asked, "What if what I say about him is true?"
He replied: "If it is true, then you have backbitten him; and if it is
false, then you have slandered him (buhtan)."
— [Sahih Muslim]
🔥 Qur’anic Condemnation of Backbiting
Allah
strongly warns against backbiting in the Qur’an:
"And
do not backbite one another. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead
brother? You would detest it! And fear Allah. Verily, Allah is the Accepter of
repentance, the Most Merciful."
— Surah Al-Hujurat (49:12)
The
metaphor used here (eating the flesh of one’s dead brother) shows how disgusting
and inhumane the act is in the sight of Allah.
Evil of backbiting in Islam:
Habit of backbiting:
Benefits of backbiting:
Three main form of backbite:
- Infinitive to backbite
- Past participle: backbite or back bitten
- Present participle: backbiting
🧾 Types of Backbiting
- Direct Verbal Backbiting: Saying negative things
about someone behind their back.
- Gestural Backbiting: Making mocking gestures or
facial expressions that imply something negative.
- Implied Backbiting: Phrasing statements like
“May Allah forgive him...” or “He’s a good person but...” to subtly
criticize.
- Written Backbiting: Posting or writing about
someone negatively online or in messages.
- Social Media Ghibah: Sharing rumors, memes, or
private information about others without consent.
Ghibah in the guise of religiousity:
⚠️ Consequences of Backbiting
- Spiritual Damage: It nullifies good deeds and
may cause your rewards to be transferred to the person you backbit on the
Day of Judgment.
- Social Harm: Spreads hatred, mistrust,
and division within families, communities, and friendships.
- Moral Decay: Creates a toxic environment
where people feel unsafe and judged.
- Divine Accountability: It is a major sin that
requires repentance and sometimes apology to the victim.
💡 Exceptions (When Ghibah is Allowed in
Islam)
Scholars
have mentioned limited cases where backbiting is not sinful, such as:
- Seeking justice: Complaining to a judge or
authority figure.
- Seeking help: Discussing someone’s wrong
to get advice or help.
- Warning others: For example, warning
someone about a potential business fraud or harmful person (with evidence
and good intention).
- Publicly known wrongdoing: When someone commits sins
openly without shame.
- Seeking fatwa: Mentioning someone’s
actions to a scholar to get a religious ruling.
Even in
these cases, intention and discretion are key.
Backbiting for kids:
🌱 How to Avoid Backbiting
- Reflect on your own faults
before speaking about others.
- Change the subject or steer
the conversation away from gossip.
- Defend the person being
backbitten – the Prophet ﷺ said:
“Whoever defends the honor of his brother, Allah
will protect his face from the Fire on the Day of Resurrection.”
— [Tirmidhi]
- Engage in dhikr
(remembrance of Allah) to purify your heart and tongue.
- Surround yourself with
righteous, mindful companions.
- Make du‘a for the person
instead of criticizing them.
🧎 Repenting from Backbiting
- Stop the act immediately.
- Regret it sincerely.
- Seek forgiveness from Allah
(Tawbah).
- If appropriate, seek
forgiveness from the person, especially if the words caused harm or
reached them.
- Replace it with good deeds, like praying for the
person or speaking well of them in their absence.
📌 Final Thoughts
Backbiting
is not a light matter in Islam. It destroys communities and darkens the heart.
A true believer guards their tongue and uses it for truth, praise, and
kindness. Following the Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ means we protect each other’s
honor—whether present or absent.
“Whoever
believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent.”
— [Sahih Bukhari & Muslim]
Arabic word for Backbiting:
Principles about Backbiting in Islam:
Sure! Here are key principles about backbiting (ghibah) in Islam—summarized as clear and practical points based on the Qur'an, Sunnah, and scholarly understanding:
📜 Principles About Backbiting in Islam
1. Backbiting is a Major Sin
- Backbiting is not a small or "harmless" act—Islam classifies it as a major sin.
- It destroys good deeds and earns the anger of Allah unless repented for.
2. Speaking the Truth Doesn’t Make It Halal
- Even if what is said is true, it’s still backbiting if the person would dislike it being said.
- The Prophet ﷺ clarified that truthful statements can still be ghibah if they are said behind someone’s back with no just cause.
3. Backbiting Equals Eating the Flesh of Your Brother
- Allah uses a vivid and terrifying metaphor in the Qur’an (49:12):
"Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother?"
- This shows the severity and moral ugliness of ghibah.
4. The Tongue Is a Tool of Accountability
- A Muslim is taught to control their tongue, as many sins—including ghibah—are committed through careless speech.
- The Prophet ﷺ said:
“A servant speaks a word, not realizing it, and for it he
will fall into Hell further than the distance between the east and west.”
— [Bukhari & Muslim]
5. Ghibah Breaks Brotherhood and Trust
- Islam places a high value on brotherhood, unity, and trust in the Muslim community.
- Backbiting weakens these bonds and breeds suspicion, jealousy, and enmity.
6. Listening to Ghibah Is Also Sinful
- Staying silent when others backbite makes one a passive participant.
- A believer should:
- Stop it
- Change the subject
- Walk away
- Defend the absent person
7. Ghibah Has Specific Exceptions
Only in limited and justified cases is backbiting allowed:
- When seeking help, advice, or justice
- When warning others from harm (like fraud or abuse)
- In cases of public sin
- When asking for a fatwa
These must be done with sincere intentions, no exaggeration, and no joy in exposing others.
8. Tawbah (Repentance) Is the Way Out
- If someone has fallen into ghibah, the door to repentance is always open.
- One should:
- Stop immediately
- Feel sincere regret
- Ask Allah for forgiveness
- If possible, apologize to the person or pray for them
9. Defending Someone’s Honor Is Rewarded
- The Prophet ﷺ said:
“Whoever defends the honor of his brother, Allah will
defend his face from the Fire on the Day of Judgment.”
— [Tirmidhi]
10. A Sign of Taqwa (God-Consciousness)
- Avoiding ghibah is a mark of piety.
- The closer a person is to Allah, the more careful they are with their words.
Disadvantages of backbiting in Islam:
Absolutely! Here’s a list of disadvantages and harmful effects of backbiting (ghibah) in Islam, covering both spiritual and worldly consequences:
🚫 Disadvantages of Backbiting in Islam
1. It Is a Major Sin
- Backbiting is one of the kabā’ir (major sins) in Islam.
- Persisting in it without repentance may lead to punishment in the Hereafter.
2. Destroys Good Deeds
- On the Day of Judgment, the person who backbit others may see their good deeds transferred to those they wronged.
- This is based on the hadith about the bankrupt person who comes with prayers and fasting but loses everything due to harming others.
3. Angers Allah
- Allah strongly warns against backbiting in the Qur’an (Surah Al-Hujurat 49:12).
- It’s an act that displeases Allah and shows a lack of fear and respect for His guidance.
4. Damages Brotherhood and Unity
- Ghibah destroys relationships, trust, and harmony in families, friendships, and communities.
- It leads to division, grudges, suspicion, and broken ties—things Islam tries to prevent.
5. Creates a Toxic Environment
- A society filled with gossip becomes unsafe and negative.
- People become afraid to speak, fearing they will be talked about behind their backs.
6. Shows Poor Character
- Engaging in ghibah reflects bad manners, arrogance, and a lack of empathy.
- A true believer is known by their good speech and manners, not by belittling others.
7. Leads to Regret in the Hereafter
- Backbiters will face the consequences of their words when it’s too late to fix them.
- They may be held accountable for ruining someone’s reputation or honor.
8. Erodes the Heart Spiritually
- Constant backbiting hardens the heart and keeps a person away from self-purification (tazkiyah).
- It distracts from personal growth by focusing on others’ faults instead of one's own.
9. Makes You Accountable for What You Say
- In Islam, every word is recorded by the angels.
- Backbiting may seem small, but it will be weighed heavily in your book of deeds.
10. You Risk Getting the Same Treatment
- Those who talk about others are often talked about in return.
- Backbiting creates a cycle of gossip, resentment, and mistrust.
Listening to Ghibah:
Cure for Ghibah:
Ghibah of the Heart:
Results of backbiting:
How can we avoid backbiting:
- Move away from where the conversation is taking place. When you find yourself in an environment or conversation where backbiting is taking place remove yourself from it.
- Don't engage in the conversation; stay quiet.
- Maintain proper etiquette in different spaces
- Talk about issues, not people.
Bonus: Even Silent Participants Are Affected
- Listening to backbiting without objecting can also be sinful.
- It causes guilt, lowers your spiritual state, and makes you complicit in the sin.
Backbiting in Islam is not just a social flaw—it’s a serious spiritual disease that poisons individuals and communities. Avoiding it protects your soul, relationships, and akhirah (afterlife).
Verses of Backbiting in Quran:
Of course! Here are Qur'anic verses about backbiting with Arabic text, Urdu translation, and reference:
📖 1. Surah Al-Hujurat (49:12) — Most Direct Verse on Backbiting
Arabic:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِّنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا يَغْتَب بَّعْضُكُم بَعْضًا ۚ أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَن يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَّحِيمٌ
Urdu Translation:
اے ایمان والو! بہت گمانوں سے بچو، بیشک بعض گمان گناہ ہوتے ہیں، اور تجسس نہ کرو اور نہ تم میں سے کوئی کسی کی غیبت کرے۔ کیا تم میں سے کوئی پسند کرے گا کہ وہ اپنے مردہ بھائی کا گوشت کھائے؟ تمہیں تو اس سے نفرت ہوگی! اور اللہ سے ڈرو، بے شک اللہ توبہ قبول کرنے والا، رحم فرمانے والا ہے۔
Reference: Surah Al-Hujurat (49:12)
📖 2. Surah Humazah (104:1) — Condemnation of Slander and Mockery
Arabic:
وَيْلٌ لِّكُلِّ هُمَزَةٍ لُّمَزَةٍ
Urdu Translation:
تباہی ہے ہر اس شخص کے لیے جو (لوگوں پر) طعن و تشنیع کرتا ہے، اور پیٹھ پیچھے عیب چینی کرتا ہے۔
Reference: Surah Al-Humazah (104:1)
📖 3. Surah Al-Qalam (68:11) — Backbiting as a Trait of the Wicked
Arabic:
هَمَّازٍ مَّشَّاءٍ بِنَمِيمٍ
Urdu Translation:
طعنہ دینے والا، چغلی کھانے کے لیے ادھر ادھر پھرنے والا۔
Reference: Surah Al-Qalam (68:11)
- Backbiting is equated with eating the flesh of a dead brother – a horrific and disgusting act.
- It is linked with hypocrisy, arrogance, and spreading discord.
- Allah promises destruction (وَيلٌ) for those who engage in slander and gossip.
Difference between gossip and backbiting:
🔹 1. A Major Ethical Concern in
Islam
Backbiting
is not just a social flaw—it is a serious moral and spiritual issue.
Islam places great emphasis on protecting the honor, dignity, and privacy of
every individual. Speaking ill about others behind their back damages trust and
brotherhood, which are core to an Islamic society.
🔹 2. Protecting the Muslim Community
- Backbiting spreads hatred,
division, and mistrust.
- By avoiding it, Muslims help
create a community built on respect, unity, and compassion.
- The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ
emphasized the rights of Muslims over one another, including the right to
have their honor protected.
🔹 3. Tied to Taqwa (God-Consciousness)
- Avoiding ghibah shows a person’s
taqwa (fear and awareness of Allah).
- A true believer guards their
tongue, knowing that every word is recorded and will be judged.
🔹 4. Protecting Good Deeds
- On the Day of Judgment,
backbiting may cause a person’s good deeds to be given to the one they
harmed.
- This is mentioned in the
hadith of the “bankrupt person” who lost all their deeds by harming
others.
🔹 5. A Sign of Good Character
- The Prophet ﷺ said:
“Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should
speak good or remain silent.”
— [Bukhari & Muslim]
- Avoiding backbiting is a mark
of maturity, self-control, and noble character, which is highly
encouraged in Islam.
🔹 6. It Reflects Justice and Mercy
- Islam teaches us to be just
even in speech.
- When you avoid speaking
badly about others, you’re showing mercy, humility, and giving them
the benefit of the doubt.
🔹 7. Obedience to Allah’s Command
- The Qur’an directly commands
believers to avoid backbiting:
“Do not backbite one another…” (Surah Al-Hujurat
49:12)
- Following this command is a sign of being a true believer and striving for obedience to Allah.
Understanding
the importance of avoiding backbiting helps Muslims:
- Guard their tongues
- Protect their hearts
- Preserve community harmony
- Earn the pleasure of Allah
Backbiting
may seem like a small word, but in Islam, it can have huge consequences.
It’s not just about others—it’s about who you are before Allah.
Deal with backbiting:
Backbiting reaction:
Principles
about Backbiting in Islam:
Certainly! Here are key principles about backbiting (غیبت) in Islam, based on the Qur’an, Sunnah, and teachings of Islamic scholars. These principles help us understand what backbiting is, why it's harmful, and how to protect ourselves from it.
📜 Principles About Backbiting in Islam
1. Backbiting is a Major Sin
- Islam classifies backbiting as a major sin (kabirah).
- Allah strongly condemns it in the Qur'an (Surah Al-Hujurat 49:12), likening it to eating the flesh of your dead brother.
2. Truth Doesn’t Justify Backbiting
- Even if what you say is true, it's still considered ghibah if said behind someone’s back without a valid reason.
- If it's false, it becomes slander (buhtan)—which is an even greater sin.
3. Speaking Without Benefit Is Discouraged
- Islam teaches that a Muslim should only speak good or remain silent.
"Whoever believes in Allah and the Last
Day, let him speak good or remain silent."
— [Bukhari & Muslim]
4. Guarding the Tongue is a Sign of Faith
- A believer is one who protects their tongue from harming others.
- The Prophet ﷺ said the tongue is what causes many people to enter Hell.
5. Listening to Backbiting is Also a Sin
- Not just speaking, but listening to ghibah silently or encouraging it is also sinful.
- A believer should stop it, speak out, or walk away from such talk.
6. There Are Limited Exceptions
Backbiting is only allowed in certain justified situations, such as:
- Seeking help or advice
- Warning others from harm (like in business or marriage)
- Legal matters or court testimony
- Public wrongdoing
- Seeking fatwa (Islamic legal opinion)
These must be done with sincerity and no exaggeration.
7. Sincere Repentance is Required
- To erase the sin of backbiting, one must:
- Stop the act
- Feel regret
- Seek Allah’s forgiveness
- Make amends if possible (like apologizing or making dua for the person)
8. Protecting Others’ Honor is a Virtue
- Defending your fellow Muslim when they’re being backbitten is highly rewarded.
“Whoever defends his brother’s honor, Allah
will protect his face from the Fire on the Day of Judgment.”
— [Tirmidhi]
9. Backbiting Destroys Brotherhood
- Ghibah causes mistrust, hatred, and division—it goes against the spirit of Islamic brotherhood and unity.
10. Remembering Death and Accountability Helps Prevent It
- Keeping in mind that every word is recorded and that we’ll answer for it before Allah helps restrain the tongue.
✅ Summary of the Principles
- Backbiting is a major sin, not a minor slip.
- Truth doesn’t make it right.
- Limited exceptions exist, but they require sincerity.
- Guarding your tongue is part of Iman (faith).
- Avoiding ghibah builds stronger hearts, families, and communities.
Aspects about Backbiting in Islam:
Certainly! Here are the key aspects of backbiting (غیبت) in Islam, divided into spiritual, social, ethical, and legal dimensions — to help you understand how deeply Islam addresses this issue:
🌙 Aspects of Backbiting in Islam
🔹 1. Spiritual Aspect
- Backbiting is a sin that
negatively affects the heart and soul.
- It reduces the barakah (blessing) in
one’s life and hardens the heart.
- It leads to loss of good deeds in the
Hereafter, as good deeds are transferred to the person who was backbitten.
Qur’an (49:12):
“Do not backbite one another.
Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother?”
🔹 2. Ethical/Moral Aspect
- Backbiting violates the Islamic
code of good character (akhlaq).
- It goes against the Prophet’s teachings of
mercy, respect, and kindness.
- A Muslim is commanded to safeguard
the honor of others, especially when they are not present.
Hadith:
“A Muslim is the one from
whose tongue and hand other Muslims are safe.”
— [Bukhari & Muslim]
🔹 3. Social Aspect
- Ghibah destroys relationships, creates hatred,
and spreads mistrust in society.
- It can damage reputations, cause
conflict, and break communities apart.
- Islam encourages brotherhood (ukhuwwah) and unity, which backbiting opposes.
🔹 4. Psychological Aspect
- Backbiting can lead to jealousy,
low self-esteem, and guilt.
- People who backbite may be driven by insecurities
or the need to put others down.
- Those who are victims often suffer emotional pain, humiliation, or social isolation.
🔹 5. Legal/Fiqh Aspect
- Backbiting is haram (forbidden) by consensus
of scholars.
- It is only permissible in limited cases,
such as:
- Seeking justice
- Giving a warning (e.g., in marriage or
business)
- Seeking a fatwa
- Reporting a public wrongdoer
- Even in these cases, it must be done without exaggeration or personal hate.
🔹 6. Accountability in the Hereafter
- Every word a person speaks is recorded
by angels.
- On the Day of Judgment, people will face
consequences for what they said, especially if it hurt others unjustly.
Qur’an (50:18):
“Not a word does he utter but
there is a watcher by him ready (to record it).”
🔹 7. Reform and Repentance
- Islam offers a way back through tawbah
(repentance):
- Stop the sin
- Regret it sincerely
- Ask Allah for forgiveness
- Apologize or make dua for the person wronged
🔹 8. Virtue of Defending Others
- Defending a Muslim’s honor in their absence
is greatly
rewarded.
“Whoever defends the honor of his brother in
his absence, Allah will protect his face from the Fire.”
— [Tirmidhi]
Causes in which Ghibah is permissible:
- Injustice. One who has suffered injustice is entitled to mention the one who has committed injustice to someone who is capable of restoring his rights to him, such as a legitimate a Muslim ruler or judge.
- Seeking help to change an evil, or to reform the wrongdoer. If the intention in telling telling the ghibah is not to change the wrong then it is forbidden to relate it.
- Asking for a fatwa. A person may say, My father/brother/ has done such and such to me. What can i do about it? On the authority of Aishah: Hind the wife of Abu Sufyan, said to the Prophet Allah bless him and grant bhim peace, Abu Sufyan is a miserly man, and he is not giving me what would suffice me and my child, unless I take from him without his knowing." Take what sufffces you and your child according to common usage."
Explanation of Ghibah:
On Backbiting non-Muslims:
✅ Conclusion:
Backbiting is not just a small mistake—it is a spiritually damaging, socially destructive, and ethically forbidden act in Islam. Recognizing its many aspects helps a Muslim avoid it and strive for better character.